June 5, 2016: Family Pride: Celebrating our First Gen Kids!

Posted on : Jun 2nd, 2016 | By | Category: This Sunday's Service

This Sunday we have another historic first at our church. Paige Hollingsworth and Caitlyn Bove are two of our own kids who are both graduating from high school. Paige and Caitlyn were both young children when they came to our church. They’ve grown with us – and we with them!

They were unique kids, not just because they were ours, but in that they were the first generation of children intentionally conceived and born into families with two moms who were fully “out!”

Previously in our history, many gay parents had children, but they were conceived and born within heterosexual marriages. Up until the late 1980’s when a gay parent came out, it was almost certain that they would lose custody of their own children – and in some states, even visitation rights. Single and coupled gays could also not adopt children. Laws prohibited that.

As the LGBT civil rights movement progressed, lesbian women and gay men wanted to have children. As reproductive options grew and laws began to change, lesbian women began having children by birth and gay men and lesbians began serving as foster parents, and eventually were able to adopt children. In the early years here in Los Angeles, we had only one judge in the Children’s and Family court system who would allow two same sex parents to adopt a child!

Until quite recently, the very concept of single gay or lesbian parents or coupled gay or lesbian parents having children was revolutionary. Each legal right in that journey was fought and won, one step at a time. And with each legal right, came the need for more and more advocacy and education in social systems. For example, every year with every teacher at every grade level, parents had to educate teachers and the school system about their families. Some families have a mom and a dad, some families have a single parent. Some families have two moms or two dads. All families needed to be honored and respected; and all children in those families needed to be loved, respected, and kept safe.

While much has been told about the legal struggle for gay and lesbian parents, little has been heard from the kids themselves.

This Sunday, we are going to hear from two of our own kids who grew up in our church and are now graduating from high school. What was it like to be the first generation of kids growing up with “out” lesbian and gay parents? How did their friends react to them when they found out they had two moms? How did their peers treat them? And what changes have they experienced as society changed and became more accepting?

Paige and Caitlyn will be sharing their experience with us this Sunday! You won’t want to miss this!




~ This Sunday’s Scripture ~

Matthew 5: 13-16

Jesus exhorts the disciples to “let their light shine!”

You are the salt of the earth; but if salt has lost its taste, how shall its saltiness be restored?  It is no longer good for anything except to be thrown out and trodden under foot.

You are the light of the world.  A city set on a hill cannot be hid.  No one lights a lamp and puts it under a bushel, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house.  Let your light shine before others, that they may see your good works and give glory to your God who is in heaven.

Matthew 5: 13-16

From a contemporary paraphrase of the Bible, called “The Message” 

by Eugene Peterson.

 Let me tell you why you are here.  You’re here to be salt-seasoning that brings out the God-flavors of this earth.  If you lose your saltiness, how will people taste godliness?  You’ve lost your usefulness and will end up in the garbage.   Here’s another way to put it:  You’re here to be light, bringing out the God-colors in the world.  God is not a secret to be kept.  We’re going public with this, as public as a city on a hill.  If I make you light-bearers, you don’t think I’m going to hide you under a bucket, do you?  I’m putting you on a light stand.  Now that I’ve put you there on a hilltop, on a light stand – shine!  Keep open house; be generous with your lives.  By opening up to others, you’ll prompt people to open up with God, this generous, loving parent who is in heaven.

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