February 12, 2012: “The Gosp Accd 2 Lady Gaga – Bad Romance”

Posted on : Feb 9th, 2012 | By | Category: This Sunday's Service

For Reflection:

What more appropriate topic is there as we approach Valentines’ Day than “Bad Romance?”

Well, how about, “What Makes a Relationship Good?” First answer: “Don’t be stupid.  It takes more than cupid!”

The two most common issues I hear in pastoral counseling are:

1.  those who want a relationship – bad, Bad, BAD; and

2.  those who are in a bad relationship and are not happy.

Perhaps it’s the near equal balance of both of these that has kept me happily single!  It’s hard to live in fantasy or denial when reality is so ever-present!

One of the things I have learned over the years is that many people go from one “bad” relationship to the next.  That certainly is not hard to do, especially if one feels they HAVE TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP.

Another thing I’ve learned is that those who are in healthy relationships stay in them.  That’s not to say that all long term relationships are healthy, but to say that those who have figured out what makes a relationship good – stay together.  The bad news for those who are single is, this does greatly dilute the pool of those who are available who want to be in a healthy relationship.

A couple weeks ago I found an article on yahoo news, based on the psychologist Carl Jung’s writings.  Carl Jung was one of the more insightful theorists about human relationships.  Here’s a bit of the article:

When we are about to leave an unhappy and unhealthy relationship or have already left, we each yearn for something better.  We hope there is someone who will understand us, see us for who we are, stand by us, and help us become the person we want to be. Sometimes the problem in our personal life is that the vision of that person is unclear, unknown, and seemingly unattainable. Then we all have a tendency to say maybe it’s better to stay in the bad relationship or go back to what we knew before, even if we know it’s probably best to move forward and the good lies ahead not behind us.

If the future is unclear for us in our personal life, we have a tendency to look backwards and yearn for a time in the past — even if that past wasn’t wholly real or a myth. It takes someone presenting us a clear vision of what a relationship might be, and a path to get there, to give us the courage to step forward and move into it even if fear is present.

Lady Gaga’s hit song “Bad Romance” is the perfect place to begin this important discussion.  But the teachings of Jesus about what it means to be in a healthy relationship and to be in relationship with one another are mighty meaningful too.

This Sunday we’re going to look at a couple of things that make for “Bad Romance” and a couple things that make for Good and Healthy relationships. It will be another “Gaga Sunday!”  Feel free to forward this to anyone who might be interested.

I want your ugly

I want your disease

I want your everything

as long as it’s free

I want drama

the touch of your hand

I want your love


I want your love.


Caught in a bad romance

~ Lady Gaga




~ This Sunday’s Scriptures ~

Exodus 16: 1-8. 13-15

The people of God lose hope and wish they were back in Egypt as slaves.

From Elim they set out again, and the whole community of the Israelites reached the wilderness of Syn, which is between Elim and Sinai, on the fifteenth day of the second month after they had left Egypt.  (2 ½ months later).

They began to complain against Moses and Aaron there in the wilderness. The Israelites said to them, “If only we had died by God’s hand in the land of Egypt, when we sat next to pots of meat and ate our bread till we were filled! But now you have brought the whole community out into this wilderness to die of hunger!”

Then God said to Moses, “Look, I will rain down bread from heaven for you.” The people will go out and gather a day’s portion every day.  On the sixth day, when they prepare what they brought in, it will be twice as much as the daily gathering.”

So Moses and Aaron said to the Israelites, “In the evening you will know that it is your God who brought you up out of Egypt, and in the morning you will witness the glory of God, the One to whom you directed your complaints – for who are we, that you should complain to us?”

Moses continued, “It is God who will give you meat in the evening for your meal, and all the bread you want in the morning, because God has heard your complaints.”

So it came about that in the evening quail flew in and all around the camp.  And in the morning there was a layer of dew all around the camp; when the layer of dew evaporated, there on the surface of the desert were flakes of something delicate, powdery, fine as frost.

When they saw this, the people of Israel said to each other, “What is it?” – For they did not know what it was.  But Moses told them, “This is the bread God has given you to eat.”

John 15: 9-17

Jesus commands us to love one another.

As God has loved me, so have I loved you; abide in my love.

If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love, just as I have kept God’s commandments and abide in God’s love.  These things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be full.

This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that one lay down one’s life for a friend.  You are my friends if you do what I command you.

No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know what the master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all that I have heard from God I have made known to you… This I command you, to love one another.

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